KittyCatS Love & Frustration

[Emilia Darkwatch]

Evolving, thank you for sharing about that and being so open about it. I agree with you that it can be difficult to overcome such things, as they become a kind of "norm" even though, fundamentally, we know they are very wrong and negative things. It can be very difficult to learn how to deal with stuff like that, especially when you are used to being the person to always try and see good... I speak from a place of my own soul there with that. It is sad but true that sometimes people just cannot be different or maybe do not even want to... I cannot even put in words how much energy I have wasted in my own life by doing this, often because I believed in a good, that actually was not there and probably never ever will be. It is a wasted empathy but at the same time, not completely because you also know you gave someone a more than fair chance and so, can never regret you did not. The fact is some people just waste every chance you give them and that is firmly on them

I, too, at the time I had described earlier in this forum post was at a weak point where I was emotionally drained. I understand, Evolving, what you mean when you say you get tired of fighting these people and also come to SL for some escape and relaxation really. He threatened to ban me if I did not put prices for every cat and update my profilers immediately. I did it and complied, at that time... even though I thought it was very wrong, purely because I just did not have it in me at this time to fight it. I couldn't deal with anymore and couldn't be bothered to argue BUT... at a later date when I was much more collected and he came at me again, this time with his utterly ridiculous, bullying demands of making me choose his profiler (which of course, I did not... why would I ever affiliate with that nonsense?) and repeatedly attacking me and trying to make me discuss what I put in MY store... no no... enough. It was clear to me then that this was not just a bossy person or controlling one... this was a bully

This man is a classic example of someone with a big problem... who makes his problem that of many others. Whatever his official condition is, I don't actually care at all anymore, and it takes a lot for me to say that about anyone. I really do not care though, as he has caused so much misery for others and showed zero empathy or understanding for them. What I DO care about passionately is that no other person should go through it, waste their money and more than anything be subject to such vile treatment as he does constantly. He has serious control issues, to put it politely... his messed up business is the least of his worries and could actually be an opportunity for him to take a long look at himself and say "hey it's time to actually learn some new coping strategies in life that don't involve bullying people". The sad fact is though, he probably is not capable and even if he is... I do not care for him. He has done more than enough, and then some. It is true of the chaos he tried to make with other breedables he made profilers for, and perhaps even still is causing such problems. I have no idea as I do not breed those types anymore so am not in the groups to know what is the current situation

It's interesting to hear of karma mentioned by Arwen... I do agree with you, Arwen, that karma takes care of things just as they should be. For a long time I used to wish karma on certain others until I realised sometimes it is ALREADY there and in motion. The person he is... the limited individual he can be... with so few choices of how to behave... and probably no opportunity to even change that... is horrendous karma, but is well deserved. To know you ruined your own life or trashed your own aims and goals... and you are the architect of that... is truly bad. BUT to NOT know... and NOT have the awareness to see that it is yourself and can only carry on and on, blaming others and being hateful to them... is a truly much more horrendous karma, as unlike the one who is able to eventually work out it was them at fault... the person who cannot see, cannot change. Just cause more misery again and again and again, and never learn. The only part which is truly unfair is how others who are quite innocent get caught up in their hurtful ways. That can never be reasonable. In our cases, even if we did ever get refunded (and we damn well should be) it will never undo the messes he has caused to people emotionally

I look forward to reading your blog entries, Evolving, I am sure you will do every well with that